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We have been married for more than four decades, but our marriage didn’t begin as the beautiful love story we enjoy today.

Our first ten years together were incredibly difficult. Our marriage was filled with pain, conflict, disappointment, and broken trust. By every outward indication, ours was a marriage that probably shouldn’t have survived.

But God had another story.

What began as a desperate journey to save our own marriage eventually became a discovery that completely transformed it. We learned that a great marriage begins when a husband learns to love his wife with the selfless, sacrificial agape love Christ demonstrated—and when husband and wife learn to live as equal partners, mutually submitted to one another and to Christ.

The transformation in our own marriage was so dramatic that it eventually became our life’s calling.

Since 2004, we have devoted our lives to helping husbands and wives heal broken marriages and build extraordinarily happy ones. Through more than two decades of hands-on marriage ministry, we have worked personally with couples facing virtually every kind of marital crisis—from years of resentment and emotional disconnection to separation, betrayal, and marriages that seemed beyond hope.

Our approach is practical, biblical, intensive, and deeply personal. We don’t simply teach marriage principles from a platform. We walk alongside couples as those principles are put into practice in everyday life.

We are the authors of The Man of Her Dreams/The Woman of His! and Livin’ It and Lovin’ It!, and our ministry includes private marriage coaching, our intensive 5-Day Weekend Marriage Intensive, the seven-month Rocket Launch program, weekly men’s, women’s, and couples’ calls, and ongoing support for couples around the country and beyond.

Our message is rooted in something we have experienced firsthand: A marriage that has been deeply wounded can become deeply healed.

And we don’t believe the goal should simply be to stay married.

The goal is to become best friends. To enjoy one another. To feel safe, valued, loved, and wanted. To build a marriage where both husband and wife can flourish and where the relationship becomes a living demonstration of the love of Christ.

After more than 40 years of marriage and more than 20 years of marriage ministry, we’re not teaching a theory.

We’re living it.

Today, we describe our own marriage with two simple words: Outrageously Happy.

And our passion is helping other couples discover that kind of marriage for themselves.